When you remember the good people who you had in life, that’s when you want to reconnect.
When you remember the assholes, that is when you want to disconnect.
Who is who in your life?
Me on Facebook
Interesting thing posed to me today. I was reminiscing about my past a bit. The great, the good, the bad and the ugly. Funny thing is… I remember the awesome people who kept me grounded at times. The folks who I had a good time with. I’m Facebook friends with most of them as we’re all spread out through the world. On a regular basis we talk and laugh. However, there are some people who were and I suspect are still good people and for whatever reason, we’ve drifted. We don’t talk via e-mail, Skype or whatever. Honestly, it makes me sad. I’m on a mission to rectify that though.
Thing is, maybe the reason the drift occurred is because of a disagreement or just… life happens! People are busy creatures. They run like headless chooks (chickens) all over trying to do stuff. It’s alright to get stuff done, but what if it leaves you feeling lonely and empty? Was it worth it? Or would you have rather had a conversation with someone or a relationship (not talking romantic either, just connecting)?
With all the technology we have, you would think that connecting to people would be so much easier. Sadly though, I would say that is not the case. Technology has actually made communication more difficult. Think about it, hearing someone’s voice is replaced by e-mail and text message. People have gadgets that multitask instead of just doing one bloody thing. Needless to say, they become distracted and the communication they are supposed to be having with one person is degraded because they are too busy trying to do a million other freakin’ things.
Guess what! We’re losing out on many a great opportunity to truly embrace how connected we truly are! Stop texting that person who is 3 chairs over from you and go talk to them.
Someone asked me the other day about understanding my life’s purpose. I was able to answer him honestly, that I did and yet I am still evolving with it.
Life’s purpose for me?
- Smile and embrace life. Joy comes in smiling at all aspects of life, whether good or bad. Smiling and looking at things through the “half glass full” is far more fun and calming.
- Go explore, share stories and learn. I suffer from wanderlust very fiercely, so I am going to explore; learn and share.
- Understand that the world is ALL interconnected. The differences are only superficial! We all come from the same place and go back to it.
- We are of the Earth when born and when we perish, we return to it. Regardless of all material things as they can not go with us.
- The material things do not live on, just the memories and legacy of the person who has passed on.
- You can’t have memories and a legacy if you are too busy with material things to pay attention to those who you’re connected to whether directly or indirectly.
Now, in saying all this, there is an understanding that things happen, so people don’t want to connect to another human being. Misunderstandings happen. Anger and drama cloud us at some point. In a blog from 2010, it was about making mistakes and burning bridges. These issues cause a lot of unnecessary issue, however honesty is needed at times, especially if it is towards one you love. I know I have pissed off a few people something bad. We all have said or done something that has hurt someone else or ourselves. Let it go, don’t forget, but let it go. Don’t let it ruin something that could be beautiful. In an earlier post titled Forgiveness, Finality and Finishing things…, the issue of forgiveness and finality came up. In short, it is truly just about forgiving, moving on and where possible, reconnecting.
Mind you, it can be difficult to reconnect after a misunderstanding, especially if it was a very nasty one. However, one needs to realize that the after effect of the misunderstanding might be worse than what the misunderstanding was about in the first place. If the misunderstanding was simple, then give it a shot to reconnect. You’re open to it, and who knows, so might the other person. A good connection shouldn’t be lost just because of a misunderstanding. Remember the good moments and go on.
The exception to this is, if the connection is toxic. They do exist out there. Toxic friends, family members and/or work colleagues are out there. If the connection is toxic to your well-being, let it go then. Maybe… maybe in time it can be reevaluated, but for now. Let it go and you be in peace.
There are people out there I want to connect and reconnect with. I hope they find this blog as my way of requesting that connection. Matter of fact, if you are in the same place, share this blog with those you want to connect with. Let them know that “hey, let’s hang out or at least talk on the phone with full concentration on each other.”
When you connect, give your full attention.I will bet you anything that when you are being mindful and open in the communication you’re having with the one you want to connect with, it will have more meaning. Kick out the distractions!
Check out the post Life According to Crayons to see why being open can be awesome. Give yourself and the other person a chance to be open-minded. I know that is difficult because everyone has an opinion, but connections get shot to hell because no one is being open to the other. Give it a chance and breathe when you feel anger or frustration breathing up within. Let go and be.
The last connect… the one that people miss out on a lot? Nature. If you can, by yourself or with those you are connecting with on an intimate level, go for a walk in a park or a forest. Take in the sights and sounds. The trees and the birds, the other critters and the breeze. In their own way, they are all talking to us, take the time and listen!
In short, Let go; connect; be and smile. We are all one family, one love, one Earth. The differences are minor in the scheme of things. They just make us human. Share this blog with those you want to connect with.
Peace, Love and Cooking Grease!
Just let go!
